How I Stopped Letting My Emotions Hijack My Life
There was a time when I really believed I couldn’t control my emotions.
They’d show up seemingly out of nowhere and hijack my focus, my mood, how I showed up in my life.
Especially the negative ones ones like fear, shame, guilt and sadness.
I’d hyperfocus on something that someone said, or something I did last week… Or worry about an imagined future event.
Until I learned something that shifted everything for me:
If you’re someone who feels it all and sometimes gets stuck in emotional waves…
Let me show you how to navigate it with more clarity and calm.
✨ My emotions weren’t the problem. It was my thoughts. ✨
Once I understood that my thoughts were molding my emotional experience, I stopped being so helpless about it.
I started paying attention to where my mind was going on autopilot—and gently, intentionally, shifting it.
Now, let me be super clear: I don’t believe in pretending everything’s fine when it’s not.
But I do (now) believe in choosing where to place my mind’s focus.
I can feel the hard things… and still choose to anchor on the good that’s right here, too.
Here’s what I do now when I feel myself spiraling:
I pause and notice it. That’s the first win.
I celebrate that I noticed. Even a quick “yay go me!” or a booty shake.
I gently shift my focus. I ask myself: What is still good in this moment? What’s working right now, even if it’s small?
Every time I do that, I take a bit of my power back.
Not by denying my emotions, but by acknowledging what they are – just a signal.